Taking Control of Your Divorce with new divorce tactics

A common complaint that I hear from divorce survivors is that they felt like their divorce was out of their control. Between the divorce attorneys and lawyers, the judges, the mediators, the forensic accountants and all the papers and filings, most people who go through a divorce think the system stakes advantage of them. Rarely does someone have anything good to say about a divorce.

One of the elements in your divorce that you can control is your divorce attorney. One of the best divorce tactics to win that you can use is to make sure your attorney is listening to you and doing as you request. After all, your new legal counsel is really your new “employee”, so establish who is boss early on in the relationship. And the best time for laying down the law of how your relationship will be with your divorce lawyer is right at the beginning. This is when your new “employee”/attorney will be trying hardest to impress you, to earn your trust and to get your retainer!

Simply let your attorney know up front what your expectations are in writing with regards to communications, (Phone calls, emails, etc.) billing statements, charges, copies of all of your filings, transcripts if desired, return of retainer, and does our new attorney carry Malpractice Insurance or Errors and Omissions Insurance. This may seem intrusive and challenging to your attorney, especially if their ego is an issue, but I can assure you that getting their compliance up front is much more effective than in the middle or at the end of your divorce.

If your attorney has a problem with your wishes up front, what will it be like if they take days to return your calls, brush off your emails, fail to provide copies of all of your documents and or they make costly and damaging mistakes in your divorce case? By then it is too late to establish control and expensive to fire them and hire a new attorney, who may be no better.

So, at a time when everything else in your life seems to be falling apart, do something positive for yourself, and take control of your attorney right from the start. Your relationship with them will be much more rewarding during your divorce if you do. And this one divorce tactic could save your thousands of dollars in wasted legal fees during your divorce!

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